A while ago I was talking with a friend and we were sharing how easy it is to get caught up in the day to day stuff. To feel stressed out, over scheduled, tired–you know, life. And, how when we’re feeling like this we start to overlook the little things are important in our relationships with others and ourselves.
My friend told me she and her husband had started writing little notes about what love feels like to them on a daily basis. For example, one day her husband folded the laundry when normally that is something she would do. That day, his act felt like love so she wrote a note on their mirror in the bathroom.
Since then I’ve been trying to pay attention to the same little gestures and letting my family and friends know when those things make me feel loved. If my husband picks up a coffee for me on his way home from work without asking first, that feels like love.
Not only is it important to notice what others do for you that allows you to feel loved, but what you do for others in the same way.
- Snuggling with your dogs allows them to feel love
- Signing up for a fan club to get great concert tickets for a friend feels like love
- Making lunch for my kids feels like love
Giving love and receiving love. Feeling seen and knowing we each matter.
Can you think of small gestures that feel like love to you, that you give and receive?
Another friend recently shared that she’s posting a pic of the day showing what love looks like to her, to help her center and focus on what’s important in life. Since reading this I’ve been thinking about sharing one act that feels like love, each day. The more we start to look for love the more we see love is all around.
I’m inviting you to join me. Do it at home if you’d like or if you use #feelslikelove.
Life Coach Tip of the Week — Feels like love
In October I did something I never in my life thought I would do. I became a consultant with Rodan + Fields. Network marketing. What!!??
Along with this decision came some fears, doubts and insecurities…
Am I really trading the last 4 years of becoming a life coach to sell skin care?
What the hell am I doing?
Am I “one of those people” who are just trying to sell something?
Will my friends start to hide from me?
However, as I’ve been engaging in this pretty wonderful opportunity I realize I’m not trading anything.I’m implementing everything I know–every bit of my experiences are coming into play. Like my friend Pam Slim says, it’s all about the body of work.
Why am I doing this? Because it’s fun!! It’s giving me an opportunity to get out of my basement, off the computer, to actually talk to people in person and on the phone, and to make an income that we’ve needed as I was struggling to find my place in the world with my coaching business. It’s also helped me gain clarity and confidence in what I am doing as a coach and to fully see the clear picture of what I am already putting out there.
Am I “one of those people”? No, I’m me, and it’s just one more way I’m putting myself out there into the world.
I’m passionate about sharing everything I love. What you see is what you get with me. I’ve always done that. I share TV shows, pictures of my kids, my dogs and cat, my husband. I share quotes that resonate and touch me that day or that hour and offerings, as well as tips for the week. I do this because I want to see these same things from people that are important to me. I now share Rodan + Fields business opportunities along with before and after pictures because having skin issues that are being resolved makes a difference in lives. For me, no longer going to bed with coconut oil slathered on my face, trying to get it to stop hurting is wonderful. And being able to make some extra $$ while washing your face and talking about it is pretty dang awesome.
Are my friends hiding from me? No. They are supporting and loving and sharing. Even my husband goes to work and talks skincare with the guys.
In the honor of being bold I’m asking you to consider new opportunities, tokeep the door open, not to shut it because of what others might think or how you may be judged, be open to what feels fun, exciting, a little uncomfortable and yet is calling you.
You never know what’s on the other side unless you step in and give it a shot.I would also love for you to like my business page, to check out Rodan + Fields, to give it, me and yourself a chance because growing this and a team of amazing people is what is driving me today and every day.
Too many pokers in the fire…this has been the topic of conversation around here this week.
Some call it shiny object syndrome or Squirrel (from the movie Up).
I talked with a friend about this last year, when I was feeling pulled in all different directions. Feeling like I had my hand in many different things, but wasn’t doing any of them well, just getting frustrated because the results I wanted to see weren’t there.
My friend Michael pointed out that was exactly what I was doing….just spinning wheels. So he gave me some suggestions:
- Pick 1 or 2 things you feel the most drawn to
- Focus your time and energy there
- Get clear on the why behind. Like I always say, knowing why this is important to you helps move towards it
- Get some clarity around what you want the end result to look and feel like, so that you can call it finished and then move on to the next thing
- Set a time frame and then create a plan to work backwards from-be sure to includes funds, resources, help, etc.
When you accomplish one thing in it’s entirety it’s rewarding and fuel to move on to the next.
Life Coach Tip of the Week — Too many pokers in the fire??